Transform Your Definition of Rejection
By Midhusha P M
This is a simple note to you, my friend from a person who is neither a great author nor a great personality. Hope you get your spirits high with my humble words. You, me and almost everyone has gone through rejections which is equal to physical pain. Let me start by asking you a simple question?
“Who told you to be happy when you get success?”
“Who told you that, sadness is what you get when you are rejected?”
Isn’t that we have trained our mind in that way .Yes, the answer is in our way of thinking. Let me make it clear and crisp:
- Embrace success and rejections in the same way.
- Now, you may ask me how it can be so easy.
- Take enough time to embrace the rejections. Sometimes it takes time to accept it; yes I know it is not easy. It needs real strength. Take time to communicate it to yourself.
“Realize your True strength when people reject you. In actual they don’t reject you. They only show you your real strength.”- Ernest Aggemang Yeboah
- Make yourself feel good about yourself, self care is be practiced, be kind to yourself. Surround yourself with people who care about you and be positive.
- Now, the next and most important Point:
When you are being rejected by someone, take it as a chance to consider how things can be worked out instead of having hate or resentment on that person. Evaluate the situation (that’s really important):
“Why I got rejected?”
“What was my shortcoming?”
“How can I improve it?”
- Approaching rejections in the right way will help you to enhance your talent and personality. Be the best version of yourself, always be greedy to learn and grow and stay humble.
“When you give yourself permission to communicate what matters to you in every situation you will have peace despite rejection or disapproval. Putting a voice to your soul helps you to let go the negative energy of fear and regret.”-Shannon L Alder
Now, let me tell you the story of Vincent Van Gogh. He was a renowned painter; he has made some of the most beautiful paintings in the world. If you are feeling suicidal or depressed, then you can learn few things from his life.
Till the age of 32, he was still trying to figure out what he was to do with his life. Only during the last five years of his life, he started to figure out things. Van Gogh produced over 2,000 works of art, including nearly 900 oil paintings. Much of his best work blossomed when he was trying to overcome his mental illness. And during his short life span, it was only one of his paintings which he sold. If he had lived for another 10 years more, we could have seen many more of his vibrant colorful style of paintings (which are both beautiful and emotional) which can never be replicated. His paintings are mesmerizing and he has used his signature swirls, which brings a sense of movement. His mental illness has caused him to take his own life.
Sometimes we may not know the true value of our self. We may not be aware that, our tiny contribution can later on become of great value. We can be too close to understand why we are important in this world or why it is worth living one more day on this earth. You will never know what life has for you in its store if you choose to live on for another day.